Healthy butt: Healthy sex life

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Hygiene is a big issue when you’re having anal sex – and it should be. Anal sex can be messy. Even if you’re wearing a condom, it can be a huge mess.

That said, it’s very important that you do not use enemas (douche) before anal sex. In fact, if you’re not constipated, or your doctor hasn’t instructed you to do so, you should avoid enemas in general.

Using liquids to purge the bowel is a very risky activity because:

(1) Anything other than water can cause irritation to the lining of your rectum. This makes you more likely to get HIV or another STI because irritation makes it easier for infections to enter the bloodstream.

(2) Water that’s too hot can burn the lining of your rectum. This makes you more likely to get HIV or another STI for many of the same reasons as #1.

(3) Flooding your rectum with water, ironically enough, dehydrates the colon. So if a condom were to break during anal sex, your parched and thirsty colon will want to suck up other body fluids. This means that if your partner were HIV positive, it would make you more likely to get HIV.

(4) Purging with water can make your body begin to rely on enemas to have a bowel movement. After enough enemas, you won’t be able to poop without them.

Fortunately for all of us, there are some steps that you can take to clean yourself up before sex:

(1) Wipe the area down with a moist cloth to clean the outside of your butt.

(2) Don’t eat for a few hours before sex. Eating stimulates the bowel.

(3) Fill a small ear syringe (the blue bulb with the tapered nozzle) with warm (not hot) water and gently squeeze it into your rectum. This small amount of water -- compared to an enema -- will not cause any damage and should remove any residue.

Relax. Sex is messy. If you make a mess, wash it up with soapy water. Isn’t showering after sex part of the fun anyway?

Remember, shit happens!

If you choose to have anal sex, there are a number of ways to make it safer and pleasurable. The bottom line is: listen to your body. If it doesn’t feel good, stop. Above all else, take care of your ass and your ass will take care of you.